Because most men don't think of mental health as something that applies to them.
I didn't. For years, mental health was something other people dealt with — people with diagnoses, people in crisis, people who "needed help." I was fine. I was handling it. I was strong.
Except I wasn't fine. I was anxious, exhausted, running on willpower, and periodically shutting down. But I didn't have a framework for understanding that as a mental health issue. I just thought it was life. Life is hard. You push through. That's what men do.
What I've learned is that mental health isn't a diagnosis. It's a maintenance issue. Like physical health. You don't wait for a heart attack to start taking care of your heart. You don't wait for a breakdown to start taking care of your mind.
Protecting your mental health means paying attention to what's going on inside you. It means resting before you're empty. It means reaching out before you're drowning. It means being honest about what you're carrying before the weight crushes you.
A man who ignores his mental health isn't tough. He's just postponing the cost. And the cost compounds. The longer you wait, the higher the price.
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